Unlike all the obvious guides in the world, there is no handbook for Dads. While women get to read loads of stuff of how to cope up with being a mom, I’ve never come across any comprehensive guidebook for Dads. They watch their wives going through the pain helplessly, and wait patiently for the little miracle to come in the world and change their world forever. Whoever says Mothers are the only ones close to the children. A Father is the first love of his daughter and the first best friend of his son. Just like you can’t substitute the love of a Mother, Fathers too are irreplaceable. He is the one who tells you the ugly truth of the world. Without his guidance, we would still be living in our dreamland of happiness and thinking everything and everyone out there will make us happy. We unknowingly learn from his everyday struggle.
I learned how to use money, respect, patience, tolerance, forgiveness and even anger in the real world through him. Every time he held my hand in the crowd, I knew he will save me from everything, and that I can peacefully eat my candy. Even when I grew up and it was time to face the world, I stepped out with the confidence of him watching my back, always. Watching dad throughout our childhood we learn how to make our way in the mad race. He never comes home and gives us a lecture of how to make a living, but we learn it from his face that looks like a warrior tired after a war. We may hear him cribbing or even hating his work, but still everyday he gets up kiss us and goes back for his struggle, only to give us a life of happiness. There were times when I had friends to catch up, favorite shows to watch and went through the infamous- ‘leave me alone’ teenage phase.
Whatever the reason may be, it all became null and void when Daddy called at the dinner table. This simple habit taught me the importance of coming back to the family no matter where on world were you the whole day. That has always been my favorite time of the day. Remember when we really wanted something and thought we just can’t live without it, and dad who always says yes to everything suddenly said NO! It took time to realize but he knew as inexperienced children we cannot differentiate between want and needs, so for us, he did that job, always. If fathers can draw a line, they are the ones who override orders (mommies) and lets you live too. He helps you with your homework at night and even draws your diagrams just to ensure you don’t get scolded in school. Every time I made a mistake, its dad who I feared the most.