Updated on August 10, 2013 Stephanie Hicks moreContact Author Why Send a Love Letter? Nothing like the feelings of butterflies in your stomach when your beloved walks up to you and gives you an embrace! Maybe you are lucky enough to have a romantic partner who showers you not only with affection and attention, but also pours his or her heart out in sweet love letters to you. I have a box hidden somewhere in a closet with some of the most endearing notes from earlier loves of my life. Nothing like reading such treasures (current or past) to boost your ego and stir your soul. Don’t let your love letters end with the excitement of a new relationship, however! You can continue to stoke the fires of your love life with letters from the heart, at any time and any stage. Who cares if you’ve been married for many years? So what if you’re 68 years old? Women and men both love to be loved – and what better way to show your emotions than to write it down in a special, meaningful way?
Emails can work in a pinch – and let’s face it, your lover’s heart will leap with delight when the subject line pops up in the middle of the day. But, for true, long lasting impact, get out some stationary, or a greeting card and let’s write a love letter from the heart! Generally used in the courting stage of a relationship, this is when you can let doves fly, roses bloom anytime of the year, and its always Valentine’s Day. Tell your partner how wonderful his warm chest feels when you’re wrapped in an embrace. Your woman needs to know that her skin is so soft that you simply cannot stop yourself from reaching over and touching her hands and caressing her fingers. Maybe to you as a reader of this Hub. But between two lovers, it might actually capture a special moment perfectly. Two pieces of advice here: First – do not copy someone else’s love letters. If you don’t use your own words, it will not sound authentic and simply cannot have the desired effect of conveying your true emotions for your significant other.
Second – try not to let fear or embarrassment dissuade you from opening up in a love letter. Just go for it! Tell them how you really feel, and how THEY make you feel. I do not recommend email here. I have categorized these letters as “Step 2” in a relationship, but I also think it’s a great exercise for married couples to continue to use as a way to keep things spicy and fun! Have you ever read love scene passages in a book? Well, time to become a trashy romantic paperback novel author! Undress your lover, piece by piece. Tell them what you see and what you like. Tell them where and what will happen. Set a stage that is memorable (roaring fire and blankets? or maybe something a little more risque?) Throw in extras, if you like – sexy lingerie, candles, whipped cream – whatever turns you on!
A great strategy is to slip the note to your significant other before they leave for work for the day. They’ll be referring to the letter all day long, and you can both savor the anticipation! Some couples, after months or years together, may find that the only exchange of “love letters” between them comes on February 14, in garish pink cards written by Hallmark. There are so many opportunities to tell your spouse or significant other how much they mean to you – particularly in your own words! Special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries call for heart-felt sentiments and at least a paragraph or two talking about memories of time spent together. Same too, with the birth of a child, a graduation, or other life milestones. But perhaps some of the most meaningful love notes are those that are given for no reason at all. We may feel comfort in believing that our spouse loves us after a lot of time together.