Do you think your husband is cheating on you? Deep down inside you know if your husband is cheating on you. But even if you aren’t 100 percent sure, if there is any question that he might be having an affair then it is decision time. Obviously your relationship isn’t as great as it could be. Here are three ways to tell if your relationship is worth saving.
Do you still love your husband? You have to answer this truthfully. If you were to find out tomorrow that your suspicions were right and your husband is cheating on you, would your love for him be enough for you to want to save your marriage? It is okay to say that you would be really angry and hurt and that you would have a hard time forgiving him. But if you think you can work past all of that and still love your husband, that is the first indication that your relationship is worth saving.
Do you know what went wrong in your marriage? It takes two to cause relationship problems. Problems don’t excuse your husband having an affair. But if you want to save your relationship, you have to know what is going wrong so you can change it. One of the best ways to tell if your relationship is worth saving is to take an honest look at your problems and determine if you will be able to solve them. If the two of you really just don’t see eye to eye, will you be able to agree to disagree and still stay together? If there are fundamental problems like one of you wants children and the other doesn’t, it might be better for the two of you to move on rather than one of you give up your dream.
Are you okay with your relationship being different? One of the things you will have to deal with if you want to save your relationship is knowing that it will be different from now on. If your husband is cheating on you, the two of you will have to change things in order to move forward. You will have to have the difficult conversations. You will have to work to rebuild trust. And for both of you to be happy, you will both have to change together. If the possibility that your relationship could be different excites you and makes you relieved, then you know your relationship is worth saving. Nothing will ever go back to the same way it was before. If you get your husband back and the two of you work together, your relationship could be even better than it used to be. But you will have to be okay with whatever form your new relationship takes and make sure it makes you happy.